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What’s your name? What are your pronouns?
My name is Jessika, and my last name is Martin. My pronouns are “she / her”

Where are you located?
I live in Spain.

What’s your favorite thing about expressing your feminine side?
I love to dress as a woman since probably I was around 10 or 11 years old, or even less; and always have felt like I should be a woman. I have never been brave enough to make a complete transition to female, or even to crossdress too openly, but if my circumstances of life were different probably I would have become a transwoman…

In any case, I really need to express my feminine side often, and I feel at peace with me when I do it. It is such a rush and a wonderful mix of sensations to see yourself as a woman in the mirror, and to expose yourself as a woman in front of other people.

How would you describe your style?
I like to be sexy and very feminine, but not exaggerating and trying to look natural. Of course it always depends on the occasion, but in general I like to be seen without becoming the main center of attention in the room.

Where are your favorite places to shop?
Mainly I shop on the internet, in stores like Amazon or Shein. I also have gone to physical stores like Primark and Zara, and I have loved it. Of course I love stores specific to crossdressers too.

What piece of advice would you share to someone starting dressing?
I would say to not to be ashamed about the feeling and to explore it in a calmly and safe way. Many people in the world don’t understand or accept it, so it is not good to be open about it from the beginning or with everybody. But the feeling and the urge are real for many people like us, and we are not freaks, just human beings with valid needs and desires.

We deserve our chance to be happy and each one has to look for her or his own way to achieve it. For some maybe it could be just a phase, but for many people (like myself) it is something that will not disappear and it is an essential part of yourself and of who you are. Don’t deny it, and try to explore it always in a safe way. Not all the countries or families are good environments to follow your path, but if you have the chance to do it, don´t hesitate and give it a chance, because maybe it is your only way to feel happy about yourself.

And don´t leave it for later! I spent many years, even decades, hiding myself and trying to deny it, not sharing my feminine side with anybody. But at some moment the urge was too much to hold and I started to open up a little… Living in a safe place, I started going out to the street for different activities, and being watched and interacting with some people was always a super exciting experience… I also started posting pictures and videos in different social media, which I do often since then, and to receive the comments and compliments is simply addictive and absolutely amazing… I love it!

Check Jessika out on Instagram!